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Thursday, July 06, 2006

Gay parenting

National Pediatricians Group: Children Of Same-Sex Parents Harmed By Gay Marriage Bans:

The nation's largest pediatricians group said Wednesday that children would benefit from the legalization of same-sex marriage.

In a 16-page report the American Academy of Pediatrics found that children of same-sex parents do better in areas of the country which recognize their parents' relationships.

"Children of same-gender parents often experience economic, legal, and familial insecurity as a result of the absence of legal recognition of their bonds to nonbiological parents" and that "legal recognition of a [same-gender] spouse can increase the ability of adult couples to provide and care for one another and fosters a nurturing and secure environment for their children," the report said.

Ha! I think this kinda goes without saying, but still it's nice to see it in print. Nothing bothers me more than that stupid "but it hurts the chiiiildren" argument.

In the most recent issue of The Advocate (July 18th), there's the story of two women who fought Oklahoma's refusual to recognize adoptions by gays and lesbians. The women won, which is a wonderful event, but the part of the story that stayed with me is the following quotation:

Margot [one of the two women]: We decided to talk to the kids about what was going on. They were just five at the time, but they understood it was a challenge to their right to have Heather as a parent. We were in the car listening to the 2004 Republican National Convention on NPR when Bush was talking about protecting tradional families. Our daughter Katie started bawling - really sobbing - for a good 20-30 minutes. When I finally got her to calm down, she said, "If he wins, are they gonna take Mommy way from us?"

I read this on the plane and asked Ion, "So who's the real threat here? These two parents, who clearly love their little girls very much, or some bigot who says things without thought - without even thinking about the effect they might have on others listening in, including a little girl who doesn't want to lose on of her moms?" It just made me so mad.

On a completely shallow note, however, I want to point out that these two lesbians have their little girls listen to NPR in the car rather than some pop music station. Am I allowed to make an outrageous generalization at this moment and claim that gay moms are smarter? Yeeeah, I think I'll do that.

...I jest. Mostly.


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