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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

A thousand boy-band jokes cry out in vengeance...

I was going to post today about the amazingness of hearing radio announcers casually talking about George Michael and his "marriage" to his "fiance" and gossiping about it going down the tubes like any other celebrity relationship -- but that's all for a different post, because now we have the news that:

Lance Bass is gay.

Is it wrong that I'm sitting here, doing a little jig? 'N Sync, heartthrob central for legions of 'tweens, teens, and Real People Slashers, had a member who is gay. Gay gay gay gay gay.

"I knew that I was in this popular band and I had four other guys' careers in my hand, and I knew that if I ever acted on it or even said (that I was gay), it would overpower everything," says Bass, referring to bandmates Joey Fatone, Chris Kirkpatrick, JC Chasez and Justin Timberlake.

"I didn’t know: Could that be the end of ’N Sync? So I had that weight on me of like, ‘Wow, if I ever let anyone know, it's bad.' So I just never did," he says speaking about his sexual orientation for the first time with PEOPLE.

A lousy thought to have about one's own sexuality, but at the same time, it's only been a couple of years since the last 'N Sync album, and here he is, out and about. There are older generations of gay men who never came out, who are still not out (*cough Richard Simmons cough*), and then there's Lance. Representin'.

Downside? (Well, besides the fact that he was pushed to coming out due to gay rumors, a subject for a different post)--

He is in a "very stable" relationship with model-actor-Amazing Race winner Reichen Lehmkuhl, 32, and is developing an Odd Couple-inspired sitcom pilot with Fatone in which his character will be gay.

Shucks. And I thought the two lovebirds on Amazing Race were too adorable for words. Damn your star power, Lance.

Thursday, July 20, 2006

That's it! The GAYS did it!

Pam Spaulding found this one:

"Why does this war break out this week, all of sudden with little warning? Because this is the exact week the Jewish people are trying to decide whether the gay pride parade should take place in Jerusalem or Tel Aviv," Pinchas Winston, a noted author, rabbi and lecturer based in Jerusalem told WND.

..."This [parade] is an attack against God himself," Winston said. "God has told the Jewish people, 'If you are not going to fight for my honor, you will be forced to fight for your own honor.'" [source]

You know, we queers are a powerful bunch, huh? Soon we'll be causing the downfall of the human race.

People sure can be nuts, huh?

Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Hayes and Missouri

I feel bad being so trivial after the seriousness of the last post, but can I take a moment and say, "HA! I so totally KNEW it!"

I am referring to, of course, Darren Hayes's civil partnership ceremony with his boyfriend of two years.

Hayes said he feels lucky to live in an era that recognizes gay marriage. "I'm proud of who I am, and after what felt like an eternity, I'm finally in a place where my heart is secure and content. And I can finally make sense of all of the searching."

He told fans not to expect updates because he still believes "that families and relationships are not commodities to be sold off for public consumption." [source]

Hayes is, of course, one half of that dynamic duo Savage Garden.

I may have been in middle school when these guys were big (oh, dear, I just gave away my age!), but my gaydar was working just fine, thank you very much.

Of course, I should also say that I applaud his decision to announce this, and I'm very glad he and his husband are happy. I guess their marriage isn't just about me, huh?

And for a more serious update: well done, Missouri!

Missouri lifts restrictions on gay foster parents.

Monday, July 17, 2006


So some scary stuff is happening in the world lately, huh?

Give me a moment to digress, however - if you're reading this site regularly (I think we have a few regular readers, mostly from my personal journal or the personal journals of the other contributors), you've probably noticed the posts have been a more sporadic lately. I'll be honest with you - I'm in some pretty heavy pre-medical work right now, and so I have to use my time wisely. Education comes first, time to relax comes next, and then online fun happens. I think blogging is fun, but I don't always have time. So I will continue to update as much as I can, but my dedication simply cannot be what it was last year when I was working a nine to five job in a library. Allow me to conclude with an apology.

All right, enough administrative details. Back to the scary world. I'm having trouble reading the news lately. Ion also admitted this to me yesterday. It's scary to open a webpage or look at the TV because of what's happening in the Middle East.

It's also confusing because - and I'll admit this readily - I have very little understanding of all that's happening. I understand the basics: the State of Israel was formed shortly after WWII. This was the traditional Jewish homeland, but there was an exile. Since then, other people have come to live there. And now these two people both claim the land and there’s a lot of tension … to say the least.

And that's about where my knowledge stops. It's a little ... is scary the right word? I think it is: it’s scary to discover that I know so little about a topic, especially one that is so important to our contemporary understanding of a global community. But I spent so much time in school reading literature, reading about the witch hunts of Europe and early America, reading about queer history or queer theory, etc, etc, I somehow managed to miss something that's pretty damn important.

And so now I find myself staring at the news, feeling immensely saddened by all the destruction and death, but having very little actual understanding of the situation. Obviously, this is something I need to remedy as soon as possible. But there’s chemistry reading to do, and work to get done … and is that the saddest part of all? That I don’t think I have the time right now? Sheesh, man. Sheesh.

Thursday, July 06, 2006

Gay parenting

National Pediatricians Group: Children Of Same-Sex Parents Harmed By Gay Marriage Bans:

The nation's largest pediatricians group said Wednesday that children would benefit from the legalization of same-sex marriage.

In a 16-page report the American Academy of Pediatrics found that children of same-sex parents do better in areas of the country which recognize their parents' relationships.

"Children of same-gender parents often experience economic, legal, and familial insecurity as a result of the absence of legal recognition of their bonds to nonbiological parents" and that "legal recognition of a [same-gender] spouse can increase the ability of adult couples to provide and care for one another and fosters a nurturing and secure environment for their children," the report said.

Ha! I think this kinda goes without saying, but still it's nice to see it in print. Nothing bothers me more than that stupid "but it hurts the chiiiildren" argument.

In the most recent issue of The Advocate (July 18th), there's the story of two women who fought Oklahoma's refusual to recognize adoptions by gays and lesbians. The women won, which is a wonderful event, but the part of the story that stayed with me is the following quotation:

Margot [one of the two women]: We decided to talk to the kids about what was going on. They were just five at the time, but they understood it was a challenge to their right to have Heather as a parent. We were in the car listening to the 2004 Republican National Convention on NPR when Bush was talking about protecting tradional families. Our daughter Katie started bawling - really sobbing - for a good 20-30 minutes. When I finally got her to calm down, she said, "If he wins, are they gonna take Mommy way from us?"

I read this on the plane and asked Ion, "So who's the real threat here? These two parents, who clearly love their little girls very much, or some bigot who says things without thought - without even thinking about the effect they might have on others listening in, including a little girl who doesn't want to lose on of her moms?" It just made me so mad.

On a completely shallow note, however, I want to point out that these two lesbians have their little girls listen to NPR in the car rather than some pop music station. Am I allowed to make an outrageous generalization at this moment and claim that gay moms are smarter? Yeeeah, I think I'll do that.

...I jest. Mostly.

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

"Go hunt them down and do America a favor..."

This is unbelievable.